Happy Friday Purgators!
This is kind of an ironic story because today I am going to court for my dog (don’t ask) and it also happens to be the first time I’m seeing the guy this story is about since he “called it quits” (the two are mutually exclusive).
Rene was the opposite of my type, he was super tall, dark features and really buff but there was something in particular that drew me to him — the picture of his dog in his profile, how do you say no to that? He seemed a bit nervous but luckily I know how to take charge and before you know it we were having a nice conversation. We talked about everything ranging from our goals in life, to our previous relationships and especially what we both wanted out of this — a relationship.
Our initial date was scheduled for Saturday but by Wednesday we were both itching to see each other so on a whim he picked me up and we went out for a drink. We had a great first date with a kiss t o seal the deal at the end of the night, it was the perfect first date.
Jump to Saturday, the day our original first date was supposed to be. I drove to his place to meet his dog (and him) and after hanging out for a bit, one thing led to another and well…you know. We then went for lunch and after that he accompanied me to the grocery store to pick up some food for a girls night later that evening. He was incredibly affectionate, from holding my hand, to kissing me on the forehead, to embracing and kissing me in the middle of the aisle, it was wonderful. We went back to his place after where we hung out for a couple hours and then I said goodbye. That was the last I saw of Rene.
After weird communication for a few days I confronted Rene, asking him what was wrong. He confessed that he wasn’t quite ready for a relationship and apologized, asking if we could still be friends. My response was simple, “I’m not looking for new friends, I’m looking for a boyfriend.” He continued to try keep up a conversation after his bombshell of a comment which confused me even more and made me mad, what a slap in the face.
Takeaway Message: Make your intentions clear, there is nothing wrong in saying you are looking for something casual. It is understandable that feelings can change but if that does happen you should be the one to articulate it instead of the other person having to sit around and question things.