Midweek Hustle: When Dating Loses Its Fun


Happy Humpday Purgators! We hope you are getting your hump on today.

When we started this blog we were both in the thick of dating mania, we were going on an average of one date a week and things were busy. Fast forward to January 2016 and the whole “new year, new me” thing kind of took an unexpected turn.

I (The Blonde) was at a point where you couldn’t pay me enough to go on a date, the thought of even talking to somebody made me feel ill. These types of feelings aren’t abnormal for me but I was surprised to hear a couple weeks later that The Brunette was feeling the exact same way.

I (The Brunette) was at a place where I just wanted to focus on myself and didn’t want to go on mindless, pointless dates. I’ve always been the “yes” girl when it came to dating but as of late I’ve been the “no” girl. I think when you’re dating you are put in a magnify  glass and it’s easier to judge yourself a little bit harder than you normally would. I was becoming a bit to consumed with my appearance and less about what was on the inside, which is what truly matters.

So what happens when dating loses its fun? Do you stop? Do you push through and hope it’s just a phase? To be honest, we don’t have a solid answer for that we are simply following our gut and going with what it says. We continue to remind ourselves that we don’t have to always go on dates and we don’t owe anyone anything…just ourselves.

Maybe this month will bring us our Prince Charming, or maybe not, either way we are both open minded and will continue to keep following our gut whatever it says.


-The Blonde & The Brunette




  1. Demetrius - Tao of Indifference · February 17, 2016

    Whenever I feel like dating has lost it’s fun, I usually take a hiatus, not a full break. I turn off my notifications on apps and just avoid checking them unless I’m bored or following up on a person I’m already in contact with. I leave myself open to meeting someone new but don’t pursue anyone. I think this only really works if you don’t get messaged at the same rate as a single straight woman though ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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    • Blonde&Brunette · February 17, 2016

      That’s a good idea! I’ve been doing the same, just telling myself “it is what it is.” – The Blonde

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      • Demetrius - Tao of Indifference · February 17, 2016

        I think the difference is when dating sucks for straight women, it’s insulting, or boundary crossing, or vulgar or crass. For straight men, it’s lots of false starts, lots of first dates that don’t lead to second dates, lots of honest rejections. It’s pretty much an apples to oranges deal which is why when women say they need a break from dating a lot of men just don’t understand why.

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