Happy Friday Purgators!
As I was wracking my brain this week trying to think of what to write about I recalled one of my very first Tinder dates with Sam*.
Sam for all intensive purposes was a nice guy with a great job and seemed like a relatively normal person over text. We met up at a local tapas restaurant, I walked in and saw him already sitting down. As soon as I approached the table I could sense he was nervous. He wouldn’t really look me in the eye and I knew the conversation would be on my shoulders (if you know anything about me, I prefer not to take the reins in a conversation). I’m sure the fact that I wore a semi-see through top didn’t help his nervousness either.
Eventually after a couple of drinks and a lot of conversation extraction, Sam began to warm up. He was an architect and I knew he was passionate about his career so I asked him a lot of questions about that. Clearly this conversation topic was one he was comfortable with as all the other ones he shy’d away. I was happy he was opening up but in all honesty I have no major interest in architecture and can only listen to someone talk to building design for so long before wanting to move on to another topic.
We finished up at the restaurant and went for a little walk since the weather was nice. He suggested we try a new bar that opened up down the street for a drink and I agreed. Again, conversation was alright but nothing to write home about.
We ended the night off several hours later with a hug (can you tell I don’t kiss on the first date?) and a “let’s do this again sometime soon.” He text the next day telling me he had a nice time and I responded back but slowly began to cut conversation from there. He just wasn’t someone I could picture anything sustainable with. Sam was…forgettable.
Takeaway Message: Don’t be forgettable. The dating world is filled with so many people, it’s easy for someone to forget about you. There was nothing wrong with Sam other than that he left no lasting impression. Try to set yourself apart and be unique so that you don’t end up like Sam. #PoorSam.