The Beginning Of A New Era

The Beginning Of A New Era

Happy Friday Purgators!

The time has finally arrived, a time both The Brunette and I knew would eventually come but maybe not this soon – I have run out of dates to write about.

I’m pretty open and honest about my dating history (or lack there of) and have been quite vocal about my strong dislike towards the dating scene. We talk a lot about individual datings styles and if I were to explain mine it would be the perfect combination of avoidance and simply not caring.

The very thought of going on a date gives me anxiety and makes me want to do nothing more than crawl into a ball and avoid the whole thing all together. I’ve always admired The Brunette’s openness and excitement towards dating and wished I had that myself but even after starting this blog and forcing myself to go on more dates, my feelings towards the whole dating scene haven’t really changed.

I’ve realized over time that online dating just isn’t my thing – at least for the foreseeable future. Crazy right? I’m co-writer of a blog pretty much devoted to talking about our online dating escapades and I  hate the very concept. The dating detox we’ve been on for the month of April hasn’t even been the slightest bit challenging for me, in fact it’s feels great. It’s nice not to have dating apps on my phone, it feels refreshing – the only way I can really describe it is that I feel lighter.

When I think about what I don’t like about online dating I’ve come to the conclusion that to me it’s like a glorified interview. I’ve gone through enough professional interviews in the last several months that sitting across a table answering questions about myself all while trying to put on this whole “cool girl” facade is not what I’m looking to do in my spare time as well.

Not only is getting to know someone I’ve never met a daunting task for me but the ever present question of “is his number one goal to get in my pants?” is constantly in the back of my mind. It’s tough to meet someone off a dating app quite often used for hookups without wondering what the other persons intentions are and anyone who knows me knows I’ve never been the kind to come right out and ask.

When The Brunette and I started this blog we always told one another that once dating loses its fun it’s time to give it a break. Well my friends, it’s lost its fun for me – at least the dating app part of it.

I’m not going to force myself to do something that feels like a chore to me, what’s the point? I mean life is so short, why waste it on things that you don’t even find enjoyable?

At the rate things are going now, my dating detox will most likely be lasting beyond the month of April and I’m perfectly fine with that. Maybe it’s time to forget about going on as many dates as I can “because that’s what every twenty-something does” and focus on enjoying the summer ahead and really just life in general.

If an opportunity presents itself with someone I’m interested in getting to know better I’ll gladly take it but until then, in the words of rapper G-Eazy, “it’s just me, myself and I riding solo till I die.”


-The Blonde



  1. SingleGirlsAnonymous · April 29, 2016

    So great that you can recognize what is best for you right now. I always try and remind myself that the goal at the end of the day is to be happy. Whether that means being single, dating, or in a relationship, as long as you are doing what makes you happy you are doing the right thing 🙂

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  2. Anna Hopeful · April 29, 2016

    I couldn’t agree more with you. You describe perfectly how I feel right now, and I’m also closing the door to online dating (for now). And I’m also writing about dates 🙈 But I believe that one part of it is the not so entertaining, but rather thoughtful and sometimes sad and frustrating side of not dating. xx

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  3. allisonarnone · April 29, 2016

    Couldn’t relate to this more. I’m not there YET, but I’m close. I wrote a post recently about how the ONLY thing dating has given me is “blog material,” and that just blows. I enjoy a good story but like the song says…is that all there is? Cause if so, I want out.

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    • Blonde&Brunette · April 29, 2016

      Exactly! What’s the point of putting yourself through something you don’t even enjoy – life is just too short. I think once we all start enjoying life to the fullest and cutting out the things we dislike that’s when things (romantic and otherwise) simply just happen.


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  5. I really freaking love this post

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  6. Awesome post! Stand in your own truth, do what you gotta do for YOU!

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