Midweek Hustle: How To Secure The Date

Friday, November 23, 2018

Happy Humpday Purgators!

So, you matched on your respected site, made initial contact, exchanged phone numbers and set up a date, now how do you ensure they actually follow through?

You might be thinking this is a silly question to ask, if you set plans why would they not happen but the reality is a date isn’t set in stone until you’re sitting across the table from one another.

Here are a few of our tips on how to make sure your match ends in a date,

Three Day Rule: We talk about the three day rule often and think it’s the best bet when it comes to securing a date. Try and set a time to meet up in and around the first three days of connecting to ensure there isn’t too much overhype surrounding the potential possibilities. Nothing is worse than getting worked up over a date that ends up being a total dud, remember that people are different over text.

A Little Says A Lot: It’s important to keep in contact leading up to your date but moderation is key. A little bit of conversation goes a long way but know when enough is enough, you don’t want to give everything away before even meeting in person.

Flirty Banter But Nothing Too Forward: Flirty banter is good, it shows each party is interested but if you find yourself saying, “did he/she really just send that?” you may have gone too far.

Who, What, Where, When: Choose a day, time and location for the date to reduce the chances of either one of you flaking. If no details are set it’s far easier for either party to flake out.

Let Them Know You’re Excited: It never hurts to send a “looking forward to our date” text the day of. If he/she was nervous our having second thoughts before this could help calm their nerves and help them know there’s nothing to be worried about.

Good luck and start securing those dates!


-The Blonde & The Brunette




  1. Allison Arnone · June 22, 2016

    I never would have thought these things would need to be said until I became single 3 years ago. I’ve matched with plenty of guys & made plans that came to fruition, but there have been plenty of examples of casual plans made with no follow up. I can’t believe this is a thing that happens! I once had a guy ask me if I was free to get drinks on a Monday (he asked Saturday – he worked weekends) and I said yes. We didn’t lock down a place but that was fine – didn’t think anything of it – next thing I know it’s Monday morning and he hasn’t reached out. Afternoon…nothing. After I didn’t hear from him that night? Blocked. It’s SO rude.

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    • Blonde&Brunette · June 22, 2016

      I know!! This happens way too often. It’s disappointing as its all avoidable! Glad to see we are not alone in this happening!

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  2. SingleGirlsAnonymous · June 22, 2016

    Great advice, ladies! And from our experience these are definitely all very valid points!

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