Get Him To The Greek – Long Awaited Update!

Hello friends,

I feel like I need to start off this post with an apology, we have been so quiet on here. The Blonde has taken a back seat to this blog, I think it isn’t really for her anymore – which is totally okay and understandable. Blogging is something that has ebbs and flows and it is something we both started together as 2 single women who wanted to document their stories. I feel like the “twitter” portion of this blog has been alive and kicking. I feel like I am able to keep my life updated in 140(now 280!!) characters or less a lot easier then a blog post. But, I am going to attempt to update you a bit about my life, which hasn’t been THAT exciting, so don’t get too excited.

Since the last time I update this blog, G and I were at our three month mark, we now have passed over six and are just about at the EIGHT mark!! It is kind of crazy to think that we have been dating for eight months. Lots has gone on and yet it all feels really content and normal, it is a strange feeling. I have been in previous long term relationships in my early 20’s, but this is my longest relationship post 25. For the most part, I am euphoric, I feel like I have found someone who gets me, accepts me for all the good and bad I bring to our relationship, makes me smile all the time and just generally is a wonderful human. We have both celebrated our birthdays, family dinners and thanksgiving(x3) together as a little unit. It is becoming second nature to make sure G is invited to my family dinners and vice versa for me.

Like all relationships, we are not perfect. We argue, fight, kick and scream at each other. This is the part of our relationship that gives me the nerves. I have written about this in the past post, we are intense/passionate people who have a flare for riling each other up in the worst fashion. We have both worked REALLY hard at this, and continue to do so. Our fights are getting further and fewer in between, but still happening. Would love to hear if anyone else has a passionate relationship with their partner and how they navigate it? Our communication is top notch, which I think is our saving grace – we talk things out to death, so typically an argument doesn’t repeat itself.

The highlights of the last few months? Getting invited to his friends wedding and meeting all of his friends + their SO’s, was refreshing to see him around a more group setting and we had a BLAST at the wedding, dancing all night long! He surprised me with a day trip for my birthday weekend to a small town a few hours from the city, where he packed a picnic and picked a place we both had said we wanted to see. G coming to an annual family event we have in August, which is golfing in honour of my aunt and grandpa who have passed away. Then it is the small things, making dinner together, watching our favourite shows/movies cuddled up, talking about our future’s (both personally and in our relationship).

I am optimistic about our future and what it has in store for us, I love every inch of that man and I am proud to call him my partner!

Thanks for listening and I promise not to go so long next time!

xoxo

-The Brunette

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Get Him To The Greek: Three Months Later…

Hey Purgators,

It has been a while since I updated the blog about Mr G, but as we are approaching three months since we started dating, I figured it was time to have a bit of reflection on how the last three months have gone. The last three months have felt like a whirlwind and as if time has sat still all at the same time. There are days that I say I can’t believe its been ONLY three months and other days where I feel like him and I are at an accelerated pace and time is moving quicker then we want. There have been highs and lows, but all around I am happy to report Mr G has stuck by my side.

As some of you will know, I made the decision in October 2016 to go off the pill. I wasn’t in a relationship and had been wanting to go off for a while, so I figured it was now or never. Fast Forward to February and in walks Mr G in to my life. I have never had a relationship where I haven’t been on birth control, this has been a huge adjustment for me. Another thing that has been tough is trying to regulate my hormones. I am a complete mess. I could cry at any given second, I could most definitely cry on command and I am just all around a lot more emotional (and I was hella emotional before). I feel like this has played into our lows, a lot. I am very sensitive and my feelings are easily bruised more then ever. I have an appointment with the doctor in a couple weeks to see if everything is normal and this is just part of the swings of going off the pill.

Our high’s have been amazing. We have met each others families, hung out with friends and really got to know one another. We have a passion for cooking together and we recently finished the first season of “This is Us”(OMG, what a tear jerker). It is weird to think I have managed to gain a best friend in these few short months, but I really have. I can be myself around him, no make up, emotional monster with a need to burp and he still looks at me the same way he did on our first date!

Mr G and I went out with his female best friend and her Fiancé last night, while driving I asked him to describe the last three months in 3 words. He came back with “exciting, enjoyable and optimistic”. I came back with “self discovering, emotional and amazing”. While I am sure if we both had more time to think of what we want to say about our relationship, it would probably be a bit more in depth and not so singular, I think it represents us well.

We are excited about our future and what our next chapter will be. We are both very realistic people (Scorpio and a Virgo, hello!) and know we are not perfect, but our desire for each other is enough…for now:). We are discussing a mini vacation across the border to the US.

Stay tuned for more Mr G updates!

*** In case you were wondering what the photo is of…we went to the Science Museum a few weekends ago and they had a big Lego area. We built what we called “our dream house”. Just some thing silly and testament to our relationship.

xoxo

-The Brunette

Get Him To The Greek: First Date

Hey Purgators,

Do you see that smile in the photo? That is how I feel when I think about this first date, thanks to Snapchat for being able to capture this glorious smile with its filters haha. It was a perfect first date and one I will probably not forget for a long time. Whether we end up being a thing or not, it always makes you appreciate and remember that there are amazing men out there and that “good” guys do exist.

Okay, where do I begin? So after chatting on that Sunday, we made arrangements to go out that Tuesday. He said he didn’t want to do a typical date of coffee or drinks and how did I feel about an activity? I hesitatingly said sure, because why not? He suggested Archery and I was even more hesitant. But I decided what the hell and went for it, the worst it could be is that I totally suck at it. right?

Unfortunately due to a family emergency that took place Sunday evening, my mom and I had to leave town Monday afternoon to get to my cousin who was in an accident. (He is totally okay now and made a miraculous recovery, it is honestly hard to put in words how relieved I am about this). But that meant my date needed to be moved as I was no longer in town. I messaged Mr Greek to let him know that I had to postpone the date and that I was really sorry. He came back super understanding and saying not to worry and that he was leaving for vacation for 2 weeks on the Wednesday but we can keep chatting while he was gone and then make a date for when he was back. I was relieved he was so understanding but disappointed I was going to have to now wait 2+ weeks till we got to see each other. The two weeks went by in a blur, we chatted most days, got to know each other quite well and planned our official first date since meeting each other almost 3 weeks prior.

We set up the date for a Friday ( I know, breaking ALL my dating rules about no dates on a weekend) as he got back on a Wednesday and that was first day that worked for us. We met at the archery place at 7:30 pm, I was feeling super nervous as he was quiet via text all day. I kept having these thoughts that he wasn’t going to show, I think his lack of messages were throwing me off. I got there early, text him that I was in my car waiting as I wasn’t sure where the entrance was. He arrived and we walked in and we started the date. Archery ended up being really fun and was nice way to get the date started. He was impressed at how well I did and I even managed to get an arrow in the yellow ring ( I was so proud of myself.) We decided after an hour to head for drinks as my fingers were hurting from archery. We took his car and left mine there, made more sense to take one car. We went to a new bar that opened up down the street, we each had a couple drinks and got lost in the chatter of the evening. I looked at my phone at one point and it was already 11, the man can chat! We paid our bill (well he paid, he wouldn’t let me pay!) and he drove me back to my car. We kissed in the car for a while, but with it being winter here, it was way too cold to continue, but we weren’t ready to say good night (ugh, so cheesy). I asked him to come back to my place as it was close by, just so we could chat some more and maybe kiss in warmth. We drove to my place, I gave him the tour and we sat on the couch till probably around 1 am and just talked and kissed, it was the perfect first date.

What was the second date going to bring? I wasn’t sure, but I couldn’t wait to find out!

xoxo

-The Brunette

Get Him To The Greek

Hey Purgators,

Long time no chat, again! We seem to keep running into this problem of posting and then going into hibernation. Maybe it is the weather, maybe it is the lack of dates, who knows! The days are getting a bit longer, the weather is SLOWLY getting a bit warmer, summer is around the corner!

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This Ones Different

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Happy Friday Purgators!

Long time no chat! The month of August was crazy with long weekends, weddings, bachelorette parties and birthdays, needless to say it’s been a busy month.

I haven’t been dating much since the beginning of June since I was pretty busy with my personal life and didn’t really see anyone I was interested in on any dating apps. The only app I was actually looking on was Bumble, I seriously love that dating app, it has such a high quality of men compared to other sites.

I had matched with one guy in particular but totally forgot about it until Bumble sent that wonderful notification right before your time is about to expire. I quickly went over his photos and decided he was worth sending a first message to.

Since I was in the middle of my work day and time was expiring fast, I pulled out my lamest opener ever “Hey hey, how was your weekend?” (I know!!!!! SO BAD). Luckily Spanish Boy (nickname because his name has a double R and I was not sure how to pronounce it, after the girls and I went through a million different ways to say it, turns out…its the most easy way ever and thus Spanish boy was born) responded even despite my cheesy opener, WOOT! We chatted for a while and had pleasant conversation back and forth.

Normally I am very forthcoming with giving my number to a guy and usually give it to them before they even ask for it but I sometimes worry my forward style of dating intimates guys, so with Spanish Boy I took a laid back approach. We messaged on the app for a few days, I was getting a bit antsy (shocker) and was telling The Blonde over wine one night that he hasn’t asked for my number and if he is just looking for a pen pal then he better look somewhere else. No joke, at the end of our wine night, I looked at my phone and look who had messaged me their number? SPANISH BOY! Finally, we were slowly making our transition to real life. The conversation flowed and it was so nice to chat to someone who was genuine.

After going back and forth we had settled on a date, it was the first time in a long time that I was actually wanted it to be sooner than the date arranged. We were set to meet on a Wednesday and we had our first phone chat on the Monday prior, it was so nice to chat with someone on the phone and just have a random conversation about nothing in particular. I left that conversation felling totally bubbly.

Finally, Wednesday rolled around and he offered to come pick me up. He was two minutes early and as I was coming down from my building I could see him standing outside his truck with a big smile on his face, how adorable! We exchanged hugs and we were off on our date. As we were driving I asked how his day was and he said he was a nervous wreck all day, he was so anxious for this date as he was so excited to see me. I told him I felt the same way about him. It was so nice to feel the exact same way and be so open and honest with each other.

We decided we wanted to do something that was a bit interactive so we settled on Mini-Golf. He picked a fun course and we were off. We both made little jests and coy little touches as we played but kept it professional (we were playing a serious game of Mini-Golf after all). We had a drink at the place post game (he won, UGH!) and then we hopped back in the truck for the drive home. My sister had been in a car accident on the Monday prior and he knew I had wanted to go see her after our date (she is totally okay, just a bad concussion and shaken up), he was very understanding and didn’t want to keep me out late which was something I really appreciated. We finished the night off with a few kisses in the car and both agreeing we wanted to see each other again.

We spoke that evening to say good night and he sent me my good morning text. I knew this one was going to be different…

xoxo

-The Brunette

No Kids, No Problem

No Kids, No Problem

Happy Friday Purgators!

It’s been a hot minute since the last time I’ve posted anything on here – I guess the whole summer holiday’s mentality kind of got the best of me. Anyways, as nice as it’s been taking it easy, I miss everyone and decided it was time for me to dust off the old blogging skills and put them to good use. Read More

Second Chances

Second Chances

Happy Friday Purgators!

The conversations surrounding second chances started for us a couple weeks ago while on a lovely Sunday walk.

The Brunette was telling me how she was talking with a guy who had previously ghosted her. I am notorious for giving The Brunette a hard time about handing out so many second chances and this time, like so many others I asked her why she kept giving this guy another chance. The funny thing was, instead of answering my question she pointed out something to me that I had never really thought about in the past…I do the same thing.

She named off several guys who I gave second chances to (and forgot a couple as well but I wasn’t willing to admit it) which made me reflect on the whole second chances thing.

As we continued our walk we talked about how it’s hard to see each other give people second chances when really they should be dumped to the curb, yet we so easily give them out ourselves.

We left this topic to marinate a little and came back to it last weekend (after a few vodka soda’s), it was at this time we came to a clearer understanding of things.

It’s never easy watching your friend go back to someone who you think is wasting their time and it’s easy to quickly jump to conclusion and give our opinion when we don’t really have an emotional attachment to the situation. If you’re a third party looking in, often you’re seeing things from a clearer, less invested point of view but sometimes we need to accept that our friends have to make decisions for themselves and even though you know it may end in hurt and heartbreak, that’s something they have to navigate for themselves.

The great thing about having a bestie is being able to share your uncensored opinion, but sometimes we just need to share our piece and then shut our mouths. Tell your friend what you see, share your advice and then let them know that no matter what you are there for them and support them in whatever decision they make.

The Brunette and I have definitely gotten better at doing this and it’s never easy to have that type of conversation with so many emotions involved but at the end of the day we both know we have one another’s backs and best interest at heart.

As for the one giving second chances, when we both look back at why we go back to some of these people it’s more often than not for one thing – closure. Sometimes you just need reassurance that what was left behind is meant to be left in the past.

xoxo

-The Blonde

Self Sabotage

Self Sabotage

Happy Friday Purgators!

Hope everyone is having a lovely June so far. Ours has been jam packed with events and all the fun things summer has to offer! What have you been up to?

I have been giving this topic quite a bit of thought recently. I think mostly because I am the biggest culprit of self sabotage. I do it often, from work to my personal relationships, I can never just let something good be, I have to stir the pot. I have to poke something a million times to make sure it is real and viable and not going to hurt me, so I hurt it before it can me.

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Balancing Act

Balancing Act

Happy Friday Purgators!

As I was thinking about what to write for today I was reflecting a lot on relationships as a whole, I feel like after taking a step back from the online dating scene I don’t really have much to say about my own personal dating life. Things have been pretty quiet and to be honest, I’m enjoying watching Jojo find love on this season of The Bachelorette more than I am having to go out and do it myself (I’m going to be single forever).

Even though I don’t have much to write about myself at the moment, I always have lot’s to say about other people and this topic of conversation has been a reoccurring one ever since my best friend in Jr. High got her first boyfriend – being ditched for a guy.

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