Midweek Hustle: July Bucket List 

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Happy Humpday Purgators!

Wow, we can’t believe it’s almost July. Our favourite day of the year, Canada Day, is just around the corner and we’re so excited (watch our Twitter for updates). Since July 1st is both a holiday and a Friday there will not be a Friday Feature but stay tuned the following week when we’ll be back to our regular scheduled programming.

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Midweek Hustle: How To Secure The Date

Friday, November 23, 2018

Happy Humpday Purgators!

So, you matched on your respected site, made initial contact, exchanged phone numbers and set up a date, now how do you ensure they actually follow through?

You might be thinking this is a silly question to ask, if you set plans why would they not happen but the reality is a date isn’t set in stone until you’re sitting across the table from one another.

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Midweek Hustle: Dear Single Men

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Happy Humpday Purgators!

Recently we’ve heard a lot of chatter about gender stereotypes and how “easy” it is for one sex in comparison to the other when it comes to dating. Here is our open letter to all single men out there who think it’s so easy to be a woman.

Dear single men,

There a few things that we’ve been wanting to clear up with you for some time now, call it a stereotype, a preconceived notion, whatever you want but we need to set the record straight.

Women only like assholes. Many of you seem to think women only go for assholes, we only like the bad boys if you will. This could not be further from the truth, we just don’t like you. Stop putting the blame on women as a whole every time you are rejected, it’s not fair. You can’t pass the blame to other people every time someone tells you no.

It’s so easy for us to get laid. News flash! Women like sex just as much as men do but it doesn’t mean that we get it as easily as you think we do. We can’t just snap our fingers and have that guy we’ve been eying all night naked and in our bed – it doesn’t work that way for us just as much as it doesn’t work that way for you.

All we’re after is your wallet. Yes, we like nice things but who doesn’t? You can have a fat wallet with no personality and most women would not go for you. If you’re that concerned that women are going after your money don’t flaunt it, people who have money don’t talk about money. If you think that the only reason you don’t have a girlfriend is because you don’t make a lot of money – you’re looking at the wrong women honey.

We’re all dramatic and emotionally unstable. What?! Oh my gosh! Why would you say that? Is everything okay? Do you not like me? You’re such an asshole! Jk, we’re not that crazy and when we are, it’s all your fault (or maybe it’s that lovely time of the month). In all honesty though, crazy is a state of mind not a personality trait. There are as many crazy men out there as there are crazy women.

Dating and relationships is scary for both sexes and the more all of us understand that the easier this all just may get.

Yours truly,

The Blonde & The Brunette

Midweek Hustle: The Trifecta Of Dating

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Happy Humpday Purgators!

Before The Brunette went on her date with Mr. Foot Fetish, she had some thoughts on her mind and posed an interesting question on Twitter.

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The reason why she asked this question was because Mr. Foot Fetish checked two of the three “boxes.” He had a good job (lawyer) and what she thought was a good personality (boy was she wrong), however he was lacking in the looks department. The Brunette was curious to know if other people felt the same way she did, do you require the person you’re dating to have all three qualities, looks, personality and career or are there two in particular that you need in order to make a successful relationship?

Overwhelmingly, of all the people that responded looks and personality were top of the list. Now, some of you may be saying “duh” while others are questioning the popular response. We understand the answer to this question varies from person to person, so we wanted to put ourselves out there and explain what our thoughts are on the matter at hand.

The Brunette: Personally, I am totally content with just two of the three options, those being personality and looks. Personality is the most important factor for me since looks fade and a career can be fickle. It’s important for the person I’m with to have a good personality because I need someone who will make me laugh and allow me to feel like I’m in good company whenever I’m with them. Even though looks can be totally subjective, I think it’s important to have the physical chemistry with someone. After going out with Mr. Foot Fetish my original stance was confirmed, having a “good” career does not guarantee a fat wallet and someone with a modest career could have good finances.

The Blonde: I have never given much thought to this trifecta of looks, personality and career, especially the notion of having to pick two of the three. I’ve always felt it was important to find someone who had all three of these qualities – which is probably why I’m still single. Sometimes I wonder if this is even attainable but at this point I’m in no rush and will continue to live in my own little world thinking that my Mr. Trifecta is out there.

We’d love to hear from you, what are your thoughts on the trifecta of dating. Let us know in the comments section below or tweet us @FirstDatePurg.

xoxo

-The Blonde & The Brunette

 

Midweek Hustle: How To Spot A “Fuckboy”

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Happy Humpday Purgators!

We’ve talked a lot about fuckboys in this blog, whether it’s us dealing with them personally or watching them make their move on people we know – we’d like to think we’re pretty skilled at picking them out of a crowd.

In order to save you time and spare you the inconvenience, here are a few tried and tested ways to spot a classic fuckboy,

  • Snapchat chatter: Even though they have your number a fuckboy will still strike up convo on Snapchat and if you call them out on it, they’ll play dumb and act super coy.
  • “Let’s chill”: They say they want to chill but never actually make any plans. All talk, no walk.
  • “Hey, what’s up?”: Who starts conversation that way?! A fuckboy, that’s who. This is their classic go to line, not only is it unoriginal but it’s nearly impossible to actually keep a conversation going with an opener like that.
  • Old school wink: Ugh, the old school winky face. We’re not talking about the emoji wink face, we’re talking ;). Classic fuckboy.
  • Excessive compliments/pet names: If he’s calling you “babe”, “cutie”, “honey” or “sweetie”, he’s  a fuckboy. If he’s paying you compliment after compliment, again…he’s a fuckboy. Steer clear.
  • Self-absorbed: A fuckboy never asks you questions about yourself, it’s all about him and what he can get out of you.
  • Weekend warrior: If he texts you on Friday at 9pm or Saturday at 10:30pm – you my friend are talking to a fuckboy.
  • Basic name: If his name is something like Chris, Paul, Dan, Jon or Sean – chances are he’s a fuckboy.

Keep these warning signs in your back pocket for the next time you think you might be dealing with a fuckboy – chances are, you are.

xoxo

-The Blonde & The Brunette