Midweek Hustle – A Great First Date?

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Happy Humpday Purgators!

Sorry we have been M.I.A recently, we have had a hectic couple weeks and haven’t had a chance to get together to write. It was weird to think we haven’t had a post up in two weeks!! But we are back and hopefully there will be more consistency going forward:) But you can’t predict the future and this blog was always meant to be a fun thing for us, and if it loses its fun…we will re-evaluate!

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Midweek Hustle: July Bucket List 

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Happy Humpday Purgators!

Wow, we can’t believe it’s almost July. Our favourite day of the year, Canada Day, is just around the corner and we’re so excited (watch our Twitter for updates). Since July 1st is both a holiday and a Friday there will not be a Friday Feature but stay tuned the following week when we’ll be back to our regular scheduled programming.

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Second Chances

Second Chances

Happy Friday Purgators!

The conversations surrounding second chances started for us a couple weeks ago while on a lovely Sunday walk.

The Brunette was telling me how she was talking with a guy who had previously ghosted her. I am notorious for giving The Brunette a hard time about handing out so many second chances and this time, like so many others I asked her why she kept giving this guy another chance. The funny thing was, instead of answering my question she pointed out something to me that I had never really thought about in the past…I do the same thing.

She named off several guys who I gave second chances to (and forgot a couple as well but I wasn’t willing to admit it) which made me reflect on the whole second chances thing.

As we continued our walk we talked about how it’s hard to see each other give people second chances when really they should be dumped to the curb, yet we so easily give them out ourselves.

We left this topic to marinate a little and came back to it last weekend (after a few vodka soda’s), it was at this time we came to a clearer understanding of things.

It’s never easy watching your friend go back to someone who you think is wasting their time and it’s easy to quickly jump to conclusion and give our opinion when we don’t really have an emotional attachment to the situation. If you’re a third party looking in, often you’re seeing things from a clearer, less invested point of view but sometimes we need to accept that our friends have to make decisions for themselves and even though you know it may end in hurt and heartbreak, that’s something they have to navigate for themselves.

The great thing about having a bestie is being able to share your uncensored opinion, but sometimes we just need to share our piece and then shut our mouths. Tell your friend what you see, share your advice and then let them know that no matter what you are there for them and support them in whatever decision they make.

The Brunette and I have definitely gotten better at doing this and it’s never easy to have that type of conversation with so many emotions involved but at the end of the day we both know we have one another’s backs and best interest at heart.

As for the one giving second chances, when we both look back at why we go back to some of these people it’s more often than not for one thing – closure. Sometimes you just need reassurance that what was left behind is meant to be left in the past.

xoxo

-The Blonde

Midweek Hustle: How To Secure The Date

Friday, November 23, 2018

Happy Humpday Purgators!

So, you matched on your respected site, made initial contact, exchanged phone numbers and set up a date, now how do you ensure they actually follow through?

You might be thinking this is a silly question to ask, if you set plans why would they not happen but the reality is a date isn’t set in stone until you’re sitting across the table from one another.

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Self Sabotage

Self Sabotage

Happy Friday Purgators!

Hope everyone is having a lovely June so far. Ours has been jam packed with events and all the fun things summer has to offer! What have you been up to?

I have been giving this topic quite a bit of thought recently. I think mostly because I am the biggest culprit of self sabotage. I do it often, from work to my personal relationships, I can never just let something good be, I have to stir the pot. I have to poke something a million times to make sure it is real and viable and not going to hurt me, so I hurt it before it can me.

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Midweek Hustle: Dear Single Men

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Happy Humpday Purgators!

Recently we’ve heard a lot of chatter about gender stereotypes and how “easy” it is for one sex in comparison to the other when it comes to dating. Here is our open letter to all single men out there who think it’s so easy to be a woman.

Dear single men,

There a few things that we’ve been wanting to clear up with you for some time now, call it a stereotype, a preconceived notion, whatever you want but we need to set the record straight.

Women only like assholes. Many of you seem to think women only go for assholes, we only like the bad boys if you will. This could not be further from the truth, we just don’t like you. Stop putting the blame on women as a whole every time you are rejected, it’s not fair. You can’t pass the blame to other people every time someone tells you no.

It’s so easy for us to get laid. News flash! Women like sex just as much as men do but it doesn’t mean that we get it as easily as you think we do. We can’t just snap our fingers and have that guy we’ve been eying all night naked and in our bed – it doesn’t work that way for us just as much as it doesn’t work that way for you.

All we’re after is your wallet. Yes, we like nice things but who doesn’t? You can have a fat wallet with no personality and most women would not go for you. If you’re that concerned that women are going after your money don’t flaunt it, people who have money don’t talk about money. If you think that the only reason you don’t have a girlfriend is because you don’t make a lot of money – you’re looking at the wrong women honey.

We’re all dramatic and emotionally unstable. What?! Oh my gosh! Why would you say that? Is everything okay? Do you not like me? You’re such an asshole! Jk, we’re not that crazy and when we are, it’s all your fault (or maybe it’s that lovely time of the month). In all honesty though, crazy is a state of mind not a personality trait. There are as many crazy men out there as there are crazy women.

Dating and relationships is scary for both sexes and the more all of us understand that the easier this all just may get.

Yours truly,

The Blonde & The Brunette

Balancing Act

Balancing Act

Happy Friday Purgators!

As I was thinking about what to write for today I was reflecting a lot on relationships as a whole, I feel like after taking a step back from the online dating scene I don’t really have much to say about my own personal dating life. Things have been pretty quiet and to be honest, I’m enjoying watching Jojo find love on this season of The Bachelorette more than I am having to go out and do it myself (I’m going to be single forever).

Even though I don’t have much to write about myself at the moment, I always have lot’s to say about other people and this topic of conversation has been a reoccurring one ever since my best friend in Jr. High got her first boyfriend – being ditched for a guy.

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The Butterfly Effect

The Butterfly Effect

Happy Friday Purgators!

Hope everyone is enjoying the first few days in June. It has been a miserable week weather wise, but this weekend is shaping up to be a great one!

I have been wanting to write this post for about a month now but either keep putting it off or deciding I have more funny/interesting stories I want to share. Now, here we are, I don’t feel like talking about another bad date as they seem to keep rolling in (I am beginning to think I have bad taste in men). I wanted to write about a topic that I’ve heard mentioned a lot either on Twitter or in real life, I’m talking about “butterflies.”

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